HUMPS

Humps –


I’m not talking about lovely lady humps here so close your gasping mouth – the only crudeness going on is in your head!! I’m talking about the kind of humps in the road that sometimes you can get over and sometimes you can’t so you have to go around them. Either way it’s your choice to either conquer and move forward or let the hump stop you dead in your tracks. It hurts me to see people I love confronted with a hump – and then find themselves wallowing around in front of the hump, never finding a way to take a running jump over it or a side street shortcut around it. I am witnessing this right now in my life. Someone who’s been a friend for a long time. Smacked upside the head with a terribly huge hump somewhere between 7 and 12 months ago. The discrepancy in timing is in figuring out when the hump really showed up. I say 12 months – she says 7. It’s her hump. We’ll say 7. Regardless, 7 months has passed by and this friend is stuck in the same spot she was when it originally confronted her. Anger and bitterness have enveloped her like a cloud of misty rain, not leaving one part of her untouched. She snaps when spoken to, walks around in a perpetual horrible mood and has absolutely nothing positive to say about anything or anyone. So as her friend I tried to step in. Bad move. I tried to say – WAIT – this is self-destructive and you’re hurting people around you in the meantime. Wow was that not a good idea. I obviously am not a psychologist or a counselor or even able to give good advice. I just wanted her to see that even her closest friends were being affected and she needs to pull herself up by her bootstraps and beat this thing. Needless to say, it all backfired. She has been injured and feels attacked which was exactly NOT what we were trying to accomplish. I guess she’ll have to take our words and figure things out. I’ll let her make the next move and decide if she is interested in continuing our friendship. Man – what a load of shit! Hardship in life shouldn’t end friendships and yet I know many people who have lost friends during a divorce or lose contact after someone’s death. It’s a shame. I hope it doesn’t happen to us but it’s out of my hands. In addition there’s another hump that has plopped itself down right in front of our entire group. Technically, one month ago today we learned of our BFF’s death due to an insanely random car crash. OUCH. However, we’re determined that this hump won’t stop us. She wouldn’t want that. This hump we’re facing head on. This hump we’re trying to jump right over instead of hesitating. We have determined that only by continuously facing what’s happened will we be able to conquer and move forward. Linking arms with those closest around you when facing a hump is the ultimate best decision you can make. Added help and strength will push you right over the hump. However, sometimes we decide we can handle it alone and then we fail miserably and the hump is stuck in our life for FREAKING EVER! I hope when faced with your next hump you choose to armor up with your friends and family and not push them away. It’s a terribly lonely place when you face a hump alone. Lonely and unnecessary. For those of you who know me – I’m here to help you hump jump any time – Please count me in!